Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up as a mom? You take a look around and convince yourself that other people do it better. This post will open your eyes to the truth about being a good mom.

Do You Need to Be A Better Mom?

 

Recently, I went on a school field trip with my second grade son’s class. We had so much fun visiting a dinosaur dig,

Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up as a mom? You take a look around and convince yourself that other people do it better. This post will open your eyes to the truth about being a good mom.

picnicking beside a lake, Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up as a mom? You take a look around and convince yourself that other people do it better. This post will open your eyes to the truth about being a good mom.

and feeding the fish at a trout farm.

Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up as a mom? You take a look around and convince yourself that other people do it better. This post will open your eyes to the truth about being a good mom.

There was no school bus to ride. Instead, the teacher assigned two parents per vehicle to drive a load of kids.

My son and his two friends bopped around in the back seat — singing goofy songs and giggling the whole way. It was so much fun!

I didn’t bring much along with me — just my purse and my cell phone. I was basically just along for the ride and to make sure my son and the other kiddos didn’t get lost or into trouble.

Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up as a mom? You take a look around and convince yourself that other people do it better. This post will open your eyes to the truth about being a good mom.

But there was this one mom who was definitely not just along for the ride.

She literally brought everything I didn’t even know we needed — cups to put the fish food in, wipes to wash our hands before we ate, and even snacks and water for everyone on the ride home.

She rocked it!

I told the lady I was riding with, “She is the mom I feel like I should be. The one who is organized and thinks of everything. The mom I had growing up.”

The thing is, I’m usually just not like that. Sure I have my shining moments, but more often than not I seem to be perpetually spacey and unorganized. I lose forms and forget lunch money. I run late to pick up my kids and send store bought cookies.

It’s just who I am. Most of the time I’m okay with that. But in the face of such motherly awesomeness, sometimes I start to worry that maybe I need to step up my game — be a better mom.

A few nights after the field trip, at bedtime, my youngest son chose a book that I didn’t even remember we had.

As I read it to him, I laughed out loud. Sometimes God chooses the funniest ways to get His message across to us, and this time it felt like He was using a long-lost children’s book.

Why Am I Here? by Matthew Kelly is all about being the best version of yourself. It points out that birds are not good at being fish and elephants are not good at being birds or something like that. (I’d look it up to make sure I was telling you right, but we lost the book again. This is our life.)

Anyway, the entire point of the story is that we don’t need to try to be something we aren’t. All we need to do is be the best version of ourselves.

I’m not awesome-field-trip mom. But I am creative, spacey mom who tells them a new story every night and loves to be goofy with them.

And maybe that’s okay.

Do you ever feel like you don't quite measure up as a mom? You take a look around and convince yourself that other people do it better. This post will open your eyes to the truth about being a good mom.

I don’t need to fill every role in my child’s life. I only need to fill mine to the best of my ability.

We are all good at different things.

And when I’m being totally honest, that’s okay with me. It felt kind of nice to be taken care of by that other mom, and I think she liked taking care of us.

When we embrace our own gifts and share them with others, everybody wins!

Lots of Love to you!

Jenni

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16 thoughts on “Do You Need to Be A Better Mom?

  1. I needed this today. The boys have been asking me to play with them A LOT (or seemingly a lot) lately and it’s just not my thing. I can color or help them build Lego castles, but I just don’t enjoy “free play” with them. I’ve been beating myself up about it bc “a good mom” would love to have free play. I guess I’ll just embrace being the mom that colors and builds Legos. 🙂

  2. Jenni, this is entirely sweet and between you and I, I like the “you” mom in this story better. Because while the other mom had everything together and is probably a super, nice person, I bet she’s not writing a blog post confessing she gets caught in comparisons and wonders if she should be better. I bet she isn’t being vulnerable and honest and wearing her heart on her sleeve. I probably shouldn’t assume that either, but for the sake of this comment I am. 🙂 We all have our gifts and our talents, our strengths – and maybe that day, that mom, needed to take a look at you and think – I don’t have to have it all together, maybe just my purse would have been enough. 🙂 Blessed to be your neighbor at #tellhisstory.

  3. We are all good at different things. Yes! That’s the message we need to remind ourselves when we’re around supermoms. 🙂 Or superwives. Or superfriends, etc. Thanks for sharing this, Jenni.

  4. Kimberly, I bet you make the BEST Lego castles ever! I can totally relate to not enjoying the free play. Board games and puzzles are where I really shine. LOL

  5. Tiffany, that’s just it. She might not have a blog like I do, but she is AMAZING at being her. And instead of being intimidated and doubting who I am because of that, it’s so much better to just appreciate her for who she is and feel free to be who I am — seeing the value in both!

  6. Oh, I love it when we get reinforcements of God’s message to our heart. So grateful I got to be a part of that! Blessings to you.

  7. Thank you for writing this. I try too hard sometimes to be someone I am not. I want to be organized and have the best behaved kids and the cleanest house…but thats not me. I am crazy and loud and we like to run around alot. But when I feel we are being judged, I try to be that “good” mom and when I fail I get so depressed. I have even told myself that my children would be better off without me sometimes. (I know its a lie only satan would whisper in my ear…..but sometimes I believe it). I love my children. All 5 of them. I just want to KNOW I am being the best mom for them. <3

  8. What you are saying is so relatable. It reminds me that we are all just doing the best we can, and when we embrace that, our best gets even better!

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